Stop assuming you know what my life is like. Stop assuming because I don’t work that I have time for everything to get done.
It came in a seemingly innocent conversation with my daughter. Something a teacher had said to her. A teacher I have had issues with her making assumptions about me before. She said I should be matching her socks and she was tired of seeing my daughter wear mix matched socks. First of all , that is not how I raise my child. She is free to express her fashion sense in anyway she choose. Kids have so few truly independent choices, I choose to let her wear what she wishes. Second of all, how dare you try to to push my daughters creativity and her general self confidence down. Because whether that was the intent or not, it is exactly what happened.
I responded to my daughter and said, I don’t match your socks because I love your sense of fashion and you can wear your clothes how ever you choose. Her face broke out in a big smile and she threw her arms around me and kissed me. How dare that teacher crush my daughter in even a seemingly insignificant way.
I am tired of people assuming what I should and shouldn’t be doing, how I should or shouldn’t be raising my child. It should not bother me but it does.
I walked off my frustration and cleared my head of this to a certain extent.
Why can’t people just love? Why?
Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.
If only that was true.
I look like a healthy thirty something mother who is choosing to stay at home, but I am not. Its always hard to see the judgement in others eyes when you tell them you have multiple chronic illnesses. If only degenerative disc disease had some outer detail. You can’t see it, but I can feel it. I wish I couldn’t. If only all the aspects of Fibromyalgia were visible to the naked eye.
The world screams to conform to what is socially acceptable. Chronic illness is not socially acceptable. That is the cold hard truth and until it is accepted, judgement is a fact of life for us. Something that is often dealt with on a daily basis.